I bailed on volleyball

posted by Jeff | Tuesday, December 4, 2007, 9:33 AM | comments: 8

I'm a bit of a mess right now, because I just resigned my position from the volleyball club. This was the hardest thing I've done in a long time.

There has been a rapidly growing expectation gap between me and the directors in terms of what it takes to build a successful national team. The shared practice situation in particular is a deal breaker, and I would've never signed on if I knew that was their intention. Combine this with the fact that I just learned that one of the practice locations was a half-hour away from work, which is already 45 minutes away from home, and I just couldn't deal. The thought of driving an additional 150 miles per week is horrifying, especially when I can't even use the time in a way that makes sense.

The last nail in the coffin came when half of the kids called off for the first practice, and two more said they'd be missing half of the second practice. As if the negotiation and posturing and outright lying on behalf of parents and kids during tryouts wasn't bad enough, I began dealing with attendance issues before we even started.

I can't even tell you how sad it all makes me. Something that was so wonderful seven years ago has turned into something else entirely. I'll take partial responsibility for the expectation gap, as I can't entirely fault the club for that, but the way things are going in Northeast Ohio is unsavory to say the least.

I'm sure I'll coach again at some point, I just don't know when. The advice I'm most frequently given is to be true to myself, and despite the pain associated with giving this up, I do know that it's right for me. (A byproduct of blogging is that you can pretty easily sniff out your own bullshit, and this doesn't smell like it.) The club director I talked to was certainly disappointed, but I think generally understanding, and I know they'll find another coach. I'll still maintain the Web site for them.

I've never broken up with anyone, but I suspect it feels a lot like this. It makes me sad, but at the same time I feel like a weight has been lifted.


diana, December 4, 2007, 3:15 PM #

Try & stay positive - I know it was an extremely tough decision to make, but you're staying true to who you are. At the end of the day, all you have is your integrity.


Neuski, December 4, 2007, 3:21 PM #

You can't feel bad for folding with the cards you were given. You know it was the right choice.

Good luck with using your extra time.

Jeff, December 4, 2007, 4:24 PM #

Thank you. I appreciate the support.

JRY13SP, December 4, 2007, 4:25 PM #

It really sounds like you made the right choice. You've got so many good things going for you right now - so you shouldn't let something like this cause you stress for the next couple months. In the end, you did what was best for you - and that's what needed to be done.

Carrie, December 4, 2007, 4:54 PM #

I think Tyler said it best. And now I have that song in my head...

"You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, and know when to run..."

That really is a good song! :)

Neuski, December 4, 2007, 5:08 PM #

For the non-Country music folks: Kenny Roger's, The Gambler.

Jeff, December 4, 2007, 5:08 PM #

Why must you question my friendship with you? ;)

Carrie, December 4, 2007, 6:20 PM #

Hehe. You either accept me for my lameness or you don't accept me at all! ;)

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