I have to admit, I'm not a great gift giver. In fact, I don't give a lot of gifts. I don't place a lot of importance on giving them or receiving them. I don't care much for cards either.
As you may suspect, I do have some damage around that area, being exposed frequently to gift giving as a measure of how much you love someone. That's a pretty horrible trap. If anyone feels they're owed something for that reason, that's just f'd up.
I went through a phase where I thought I was kind of a bastard in this sense, but it occurs to me that I give a lot of gifts without them being obvious gestures. I always buy people lunch. I show people a good time. I bring them with me to travel. I randomly send them stuff from Amazon. I even give silly large tips now and then to total strangers. If I were to actually keep score, I think it'd be fair to say that I'm fairly generous, actually.
But I have a hard time with designated gift giving dates. They don't seem that important to me. I know this gets me into trouble with people. To me it just feels as though you should be doing things all of the time for people, because you want to, not because of the date.
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