I'm reading Saying What's Real: Seven keys to authentic communication and relationship success. Very interesting read, especially the very beginning that explains why we communicate (or don't) the way we do, based largely on the way we've been raised. Fascinating stuff.
There's a line that really caught my attention...
"When you use this key phrase ['Hearing you say that, I feel hurt'] to help you embrace your pain voluntarily, there is a certain power and grace to that act. You are bringing the light of conscious awareness to your feelings and sensations. You are affirming that you are okay just the way you are. Being present to pain is an act of self-affirmation and self-empowerment. You'll feel stronger and more resilient when you do this."
I can think of at least three ways that's true right now.