We gots to chill

posted by Jeff | Thursday, August 7, 2008, 12:31 AM | comments: 11

Me and the yarn slut were sitting in the hot tub tonight talking about the things that have us all cranked up, and I realized that we're both pretty wound up lately and stressed out. That sucks, because we're generally pretty laid-back people.

Diana's stress comes largely out of the wedding planning. I had this brilliant idea that we should get married barefoot on a beach, and, well, that ain't cheap, even for the relatively small number of guests we plan to have. But you know, we're in our 30's and don't ever want to have to get married again, so this is our shot. One positive... she found out yesterday that the one place she's been looking at can do the reception on a yacht, for significantly less. How sweet would that be?

I've been stressed because I feel like I should be back to work. I'm cash flow positive (like Six Flags wants to be!) for another two months at least, and I've enjoyed the time off. But a part of me feels like I need to be packing away the bucks for the wedding, reception, new carpet, vacations, etc. I'm still holding out for this one gig that depends on the company's client moving forward, but it's a sweet gig.

The reality is, one way or another, we're going to get married and the only thing important is being together. And there's always a plan-B in the Nevada desert. I'm going to go back to work eventually, and the time off has allowed me to get to know me again, while learning all kinds of new stuff I didn't have time for at ICOM. And I still have no non-mortgage debt. So for both of us, the reality is that life is going pretty well, and we really need to relax.

This is why we try to get out for "date nights" still, even though we live together. You need to blow off steam and keep perspective.


Comments

Iceracer

August 7, 2008, 6:01 AM #

Thank God for "date nights" ..... never give them up

Neuski

August 7, 2008, 2:49 PM #

"But you know, we're in our 30's and don't ever want to have to get married again, so this is our shot."

I hope you said the same thing before you married Stephanie.

Jeff

August 7, 2008, 3:25 PM #

Well does anyone plan to get divorced? I would assume no.

Neuski

August 7, 2008, 3:57 PM #

So why did you make the point now?

Jeff

August 7, 2008, 4:07 PM #

I don't even understand your question. The point was that we only get one shot to be married, so we want to do something cool.

Neuski

August 7, 2008, 4:42 PM #

My point is that is ridiculous to make the point that you don't want to "have to" get married again because, as you said, people don't plan to get divorced. Your justification of spending money for the experience you both want is not needed.

You love each other and want to get married. Your age and the fact you want this to last should have nothing to do with the ceremony you want.

Jeff

August 7, 2008, 4:47 PM #

I don't see it as ridiculous at all, but whatever. I think you're taking the point out of context. Perhaps a better way to phrase it is that getting married in your 30's is different from getting married in your 20's because what everyone else wants is irrelevant, and that's not something most people realize in their 20's. So we'll do precisely what we want and not try to accommodate what family or friends want.

Your age does matter because it shapes your experience and decision making.

Neuski

August 7, 2008, 4:54 PM #

Are you doing anything for the wedding only because this will be your second marriage?

Jeff

August 7, 2008, 5:43 PM #

In my case, yes, namely not making concessions about what we want to do for the benefit of others.

Neuski

August 7, 2008, 6:00 PM #

In that case, I apologize for my assumptions and the time it took for me to understand what I disagreed with.

CPLady

August 7, 2008, 11:38 PM #

You do what you want for YOU. It's your wedding and it can be as expensive or as inexpensive as you wish.


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